I don’t live my life by whim or committee and detest those who do. If you can’t find an opinion on your own, or worse, can’t own your words without influence from those around you, you really have business saying anything at all. I am not a mind reader, if you need something or have something to say, speak up – again unless you make your voice heard, you have no business saying anything at all. Ill placed blame and anger at issues known only to ones self should be turned inward and not directed at some undelivered expectation. If you have a voice use it, if you have a choice voice it, if you have an opinion own it.